7 Things Every Bride Needs to Know Before the Wedding
As a wedding filmmaker with more than 21 years under my belt, I’ve seen lots of things over the years that brides miss out on when planning their wedding. Well today, I’d like to share with you 7 things that every bride needs to know before her wedding so she can help make it a smooth, enjoyable process!
#1. Staying within the Budget is Key
How Couples Pay for the Wedding 2019
Most younger couples today simply can’t afford the wedding of their dreams, I mean let’s face it with school loans, living expenses, credit cards, car loans and mortgages, unless your independently wealthy, most couples haven’t been saving for a wedding.
In 2019, a majority of couples that get married, roughly 42% will ask their parents for some form of help, 19% will take out a wedding loan, 26% will use credit cards and the remaining couples will tend to live off one salary and use the other for the wedding.
Regardless, it's important for couples to remember that they'll have to be open to compromising on what they want as well as setting a realistic wedding budget.
Sometimes that means buying a used wedding dress, maybe getting a ceremony video instead of a more expensive feature film and settling on flowers and linens that are cheaper for example, but sticking to the wedding budget is by far the best asset you have when it comes to keeping your expenses in check.
My advice is to use my wedding budget tool in order to see what you can afford in each category and try to stick with it.
Another trick is to adjust categories in order to get the things that you want for the wedding. For example, instead of spending $1,200 on a wedding dress, buy one for $500 and use the rest for a wedding film. Now your money is working twice as hard for you and that’s smart thinking!
#2. The Day WILL Fly by VERY Fast
Listen, with more than 500 weddings in my career, one thing I hear often after the fact from couples it that their wedding went by SO fast!
And it’s true to a point, you and your spouse will be pulled in various directions from the moment you get to the venue to get ready, from wedding photographers wanting you so pose for images, us video pros wanting you to read your letters on camera, to the wedding planner directing you where to go and what to do, oh and you can’t forget meeting with all the friends and family that come to the wedding too, it’s a fast paced and very tiring experience!
The other thing to simply know is that there is no such thing as the perfect wedding, something will always go wrong!
It could be as simple as you are running late because of your hair or makeup or whatever the case, maybe the flower girl dumps all the flowers and starts crying, maybe it rains on your wedding day and you don’t have a backup plan.
Listen, I’ve NEVER been to a wedding where every single thing is perfect so my advice is to just roll with the punches and laugh off the silly little things that might happen, hey life happens so just enjoy the day if there are little blunders here and there along the way!
#3. Yes, you Really NEED to Hire a Videographer
And that brings me to my other point, the wedding video. The wedding day goes by so fast, while images are nice, you can’t relive the day and relive what’s said or the emotions and words spoken with an image. According to Wedding Wire, nearly 97% of couples that skipped a video all together at their first anniversary truly regret not having spent the money on one. By year two, that number increase to 99.2%.
Regret Skipping Wedding Video
In 2010, roughly 24% of couples got a wedding video, today that number is closer to 49%. That really must do more with technology coming down in price some (trust me, professional gear is still VERY expensive) and today’s couple is used to video on smartphones, streaming and all sorts of devices. It’s just more, well, commonplace in todays world.
While feature films are very popular, they’re really meant more for social media than anything else, what’s really important is the ceremony and reception video. You can find all types of video, films and cinema; however those are mostly buzz words as no one uses film or cinema gear to capture your day, it’s all digital video.
My advice, plan on spending about 10-12% of your budget on a wedding video, about the same as a wedding photographer.
#4. Give Yourself LOTS of Time to Prepare
The last thing you want to be doing the morning/afternoon of your wedding is rushing around like a crazy person (and trust me, it will most likely happen regardless).
Do yourself a favor and give yourself plenty of time/padding between your hair/makeup appointments, photos, and ceremony start time to allow for anything that might come up. Print out schedules for the wedding party (and your groom) as well as family so everybody knows where they have to be and when. Also, give yourself time in the morning to just be by yourself before the madness begins.
Take an extra-long shower or bath and take some time to pamper yourself mentally/physically before it all starts.
You’ll thank yourself later!
#5. Get Lots of Rest
About a week before the wedding, make sure that you go to bed early. Try to relax as much as you can and get good sleep during the night, especially if you’re use to being up late at night anyway.
Having your bachelorette party a week or two before the wedding is ideal because you’re going to be focused on getting those small details down each night before bed anyway. If you like to drink wine or craft beer in the evening for example, limit yourself the week before the wedding too, at the rehearsal dinner, curtail your habits so you feel rested, refreshed and ready for your wedding day!
Most likely, you’ll be nervous thinking about the wedding during the week before everything so find things to help ease your mind before bed, like reading a book or watching something mindless and humorous on TV.
#6. Walk SLOWLY Down the Aisle
You’ll be nervous with butterflies in your stomach, but just know that it’s not a mad dash to the ceremony or a 5k walk either.
Take your time walking down the aisle, the wedding photographer will want to get lots of images of you walking down the aisle as well we the wedding videographer (me), plus everyone will want to see you in your dress smiling and soaking in all that beauty that has just come into the room, you!
Don’t forget to smile and just watch your future spouse when you see them, trust me, they’ll have an amazing look on their face when they see you coming down the aisle too!
#7. Practice Bustling the Dress
Having your Maid of Honor (or whoever will be bustling your dress) practice bustling your dress before your big day will save time. If possible, have her accompany you to your last fitting so your seamstress can show her how to do it.
#8 BONUS: Cold, Bottled Water
Most times than none, when a couple is married, they are going through the wedding pictures with family, they are hot, sweaty and thirsty. One thing that I always do when I meet back up with the couple for video clips after the ceremony is, I try to bring them a bottle of water or some ice water.
Think about it for a second. You’re going to be wearing this white gown that is incredibly heavy, out in the heat of the day with the sun coming down and tons of friends, family and wedding party all around you for an hour. The one thing that will be on your mind is that your thirsty.
I see it all the time on brides faces at sweat is building up so having a bottle of water that someone can bring, perhaps a napkin or two is worth the world at that moment in time. Just an bonus thing to think about because most couples don’t realize that they’ll be hot all dressed up taking pictures and video clips in the process.
Well, there you have it my 7 best tips for brides that the should think about that often get overlooked. I hope that this has been helpful for you and I encourage you to come back to the blog on a regular basis where I provide more great tips, money saving tricks and expert wedding advice from me to you!
Wedding Film Professional